thanks for the challenge Gill :|
I suppose it's pretty simple though. Human babies are born a bit like kangaroo babies, in that they're not mature enough at birth to do stuff that most mammal babies can, like ape babies being able to hang on to mum's fur so she can get on with foraging and whatnot, or hooved herbivores being able to walk pdq so the herd can leg it away from the lions. In a cave-mum situation babies can't be left alone cos of the sabre toothed tiger and bears and shit, plus the hypothermia thing from lack of fur, so it's utterly counter-intuitive and counter-evolutionary to expect a baby to not call to mum in some way or other, and I'm big on psychic communication with mum/baby relationships, if cave-baby is on its own for any length of time. So that's the basic design thing with babies, they need human contact to feel safe and secure and they're programmed to communicate the need so that the bear doesn't get them. On a more esoteric level, there's aura-sharing and chakras over nipples and if you're into that kind of thing you'll kwim.
The bf stuff I can't separate here from my annoyance at the person on the forum I was talking about before, with her talk of mostly expressing and not being able to wait until she could unwrap the bottles in her cupboard and routines and dissing my suggestion of a co-sleeper (not actually sharing with her, but having an open-sided cot or crib thing next to her bed) because she doesn't believe babies should be in bed with Mum and Dad. Cos how is a baby going to be nurtured *energetically* with a bottle or while in a cot/pram/car-seat/bouncy-chair/moses basket and not in contact with anyone?
So to sum up: I reckon babies need human contact and regular doses of energetic nurturing, at whatever frequency they deem fit. Cave-mum didn't have a clock, or a baby monitor and we're not all that different now. Seems daft to expect babies to have caught up in evolution with society's changes in the last 200-300 years. And other such 'natural parenting' platitudes.
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YES! love it love it!
More please ;-)
not today though.
Hmmm *Energetic nurturing*
New brand name concept thingy book title?
gods wow it works for me ;)
really the 'care instructions' lactivist t-shirt on the shop sums it up best :)
nipple chakras... http://www.kriyayoga.com/family/sexuality_and_spirituality/posts/26.html mentions them in passing and leads to http://www.kriyayoga.com/english/on_your_wings/milk.htm which has even me going 'whoa!' at the inference for those who can't bf.
Blimey. That makes you think doesn't it?
the way it's written is very evangelical, I'd love to find something a bit more balanced in tone, but the basics are there. Love-energy flows from mum to baby more when baby is near a breast. Simple, innit?
Yes, but the bits about milk = love and making peace with your mother..
Mine put a teat on the doorstep milk for me from day one ROFL. Explains a lot.
How do you make peace with *that*?
:-/
well... bottlefeeding can be done with love...
but otherwise I reckon all you can do is all the internal forgiveness stuff that you can and all the psychic vampire blocking that you can, and let it go as much as you can. And make peace with *yourself* as much as you can. Regardless of what you can do with/for her. kwim?
Yup, good answer. I reckon you're right. Thanks xx
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